For a Shot at Something Great !
We accept that change is normal as we move from one phase of life to the next. We’ve also learned that some kinds of change are brought about abruptly by external circumstances. We’ve been fired, our partner has broken off the relationship or we’re just so miserable that we almost rejoice in letting go and moving on. It becomes obvious that it’s time to let go because our hand has been forced somehow. The same old status quo has caused such discomfort that we have no choice but to change something pronto, even when we don’t know what’s coming next.
But what about when the message for ‘change’ is more subtle, or when nothing is really ‘wrong’?
We’ve all experience times when something has changed on the inside, first. We start to feel differently about something or someone even when nothing has noticeably changed on the outside. We can’t go so far as to say, “this is really bad”, but we can’t deny that we’ve had a quiet change of heart. This is when we’re called upon to face ourselves squarely and honestly and therefore, make a change based on the desire to have more, be more or do more.
This is the moment when we decide if we’re willing to let go of something good for the shot at something great.
Letting go when things are pretty good can be hard. It’s tempting to settle and stick with what we know. The known is familiar, after all, and therefore comfortable. At one time or another, each one of us has clung to past for fear of the unknown. Our old and worn out stuff has a certain appeal because it’s the devil we know.
Know When It’s Time to Move On
It really is okay if something was right for you at one time but is no longer right for you now. Very few thing are going to serve your interests or best intentions forever. It’s okay to admit that your job choice or friendships or home or hobbies aren’t matching up anymore. It doesn’t mean that you’re a failure or a fool for being there in the past. You’ve simply outgrown your circumstances and it’s time to get current with yourself.
Wisdom is knowing when a good thing has run its course; and trusting that something better awaits you at the next level. It can be extremely difficult to let go of something ‘almost perfect’ in the hope of getting ‘exactly perfect’! I do know how this feels. I have been there many times in my life too. And looking back, I’m always (and yes, I do mean always) met by someone new or something great at the next level.
About one year before I met my husband, I ended a good relationship with a very good person. I did this in the hopes that I would find that great, perfect fit for me. At the time, it was one of the saddest, hardest decisions I ever made. But the result was that I did find my “Mr. Right.” More than once I’ve moved away from business alliances when things started to go south, even when the potential for financial growth was huge. Even when I’ve wobbled, I’ve also landed on my feet and I’ve landed on higher ground. You are no different. If I can, you can. You can end things when you need to. Listen to the call of your heart. You can say goodbye with grace and dignity and compassion. You can walk away from the good (or what used to be good) for what can be even better.
Has Something Good Run it’s Course?
Maybe you’re facing a decision now with regards to saying good-bye to an important part of your life. It could indeed be time to let
go so that you can move toward something more fulfilling. For example, if you don’t feel challenged by your job anymore or share share mutual joy and common interests in a friendship, maybe it’s time to move on in favor of something else. You don’t need to feel bad about moving away from something painful or something that was once good, but has simply run its course. Don’t beat yourself up because you didn’t achieve everything that you had hoped to there. If it’s time to go, it’s time to go and that’s okay.
Ask yourself this:
Is it time to let go of something good to make room for something even better - something great, and something that will take me to the next level?
Go for the Great!
Be courageous. Let go of something good, so you can have something great. Step into the change that you are creating in your life right now with a positive, expectant attitude and give yourself permission to move forward without guilt.
Making room for change means allowing for new possibilities. Be willing to open your hands and allow any draining situation to be freed. If you hold on to your circumstances because of fears such as, “What if nothing better comes along?” then the situation will only worsen and deplete you. But when you surrender a situation that isn’t working, it will either disappear completely and be replaced by something better, directly catapulting you into the world of something great or it will return to you healed.
This can be challenging because there’s work to be done and many unknowns ahead; but once you rid your life of fruitless conditions, you’ll be able to move forward again more freely and easily. When you actively close one door, you’ll automatically trigger another one to open; and when it does, trust that you can successfully walk through that open door into a fresh new beginning!
Go for the Great and Go with the Change!
Christen
